Finding My Place

What the adults did not tell me in my youth I discover bit by bit; it makes life a mystery. Though there are regrets, missed opportunities, I guess they make it intriguing too; you can't wait to see what will happen next. Take an example, the newly minted Malaysia PM Anwar Ibrahim: who would have thought he can have another shot at that position again and actually win it. To think even the most respected political observers deduced wrongly! Imagine life without all the setbacks, before the eventual, hard-earned, surprise victory; life will be too peaceful, too calm. And where will there be growth, evolution without pain and struggle? Like I once mentioned: my singlehood comes with all forms of struggle that one can't simply predict all of them. So it is important to be ready to make the little adjustments, to sacrifice or let go what will allow you to move forward. Of course, you will struggle at some low point, still, it is more crucial to rebound from it. This often involves quite a rapid change of mindset every time, which is, of course, most difficult. And it will only get worse with age as old habits harden, die hard. Be like water, to flow and flow. I understand now: you can only move with the current, not against it. That is, we are not heroes. We are not here to change the world. Instead, one has to change oneself with the surrounding, to adapt to it, to blend with it. Otherwise you will not find your place in it.